Being a parent is not an easy life, if you want to take the responsibility very well for your children and guide to the right way they should go.
You can go with easy way to look after them but their futures are not 100% guarantee to be bright and shine.
So, what are the easy ways to control your children behaviour the way you want to act for it since they were baby? Let me explain on my thought and you have a right not to agree with me.
(1) Following the way whatever they want ::::
They will love you so much as long as they get whatever they want. But once they are not allowed to do so, you will be their enemy. They won’t give you a chance to go with your way.
Don’t blame them. You already trained them to get out of control of you and you already ruined them the whole time. They used to do with their own desired, not your ways. You gave them full right to do so.
(2) Using Power to force them whatever you want ::::
They will listen to you as long as they feel fear on your power. But once they can’t stand on it or know / notice that you are bossy too much them using power and force them whatever you want, you will be their enemy. They will neglect whatever you say and ready to make confrontation.
Don’t blame them. You already pushed them to get this situation and you already hurt their right and desire the whole time. They want to escape from your power and they want full right to do so.
You will need too much talking, discussion and negotiation with them since you became a parent. You must try to be a role model or hero of them. I don’t mean you need degree, money, or even power to be their role model. But you have good moral and lots of knowledge to explain them whatever they want to know. You need open mind attitude to deal with them. You must plan systematic rules for them and let them know clearly and firmly. Make sure that the rules you make must be followed by yourself first before they do so.
Examples ::::
(a) Don’t smoke : You don’t smoke as well.
(b) Don’t use make up too much on face : You also must avoid it.
(c) Don’t lie : You must try not to lie to them.
(d) Keep your promise : You must keep your promise as well. If you might break your promise for some reason, tell them honestly and give them reason “why” and treat them something nice and apologise them. But try not to break your promise again and again.
I believe that as long as they accept that you are trying to do everything for their life better, you are a hero for them. You don’t need to use any power to force them to get the way you want to do of them.
Foe me, I don’t want to proud of being a parent who can give any command and take saying always “Yes” from children. I just want to be proud of being a parent who can discuss with children and they follow my way by their judgement. They have a right to say “No” to my request.
When I was student, there were responsibilities for Parents, Children, Teachers, Pupils, and EVEN LEADERS in the back of note books.
- 5 duties for Parents……6 duties for Leaders..etc.
I don’t mean, we must be perfect for everything. As you know, nobody is perfect. But Shall we try our best for ourselves, our children, our family, our people, our country and our world with good morals, manners, attitudes and especially right thinking.
After that our history will be beautiful and grace in future generation.
